Social Detachment

4 thoughts on “Social Detachment”

  1. Complicating the issue of the ability to make emotionless, anonymous statements is that someone can say something hurtful/inflammatory/crazy – even if they don’t really mean it and are just venting – and then they can go away after they feel better, never come back – and yet their words are still out there and potentially findable for a long time afterward. It adds a whole new dimension to the idea that once you say something you can’t take it back.

    On the other hand, I sometimes find the straightforward no emotion context of email to be helpful when discussing highly-charged topics with, say, my husband. It can help things come out a little more clearly.

    1. Well said Patti, and I concur with your statements completely. I like the fact that you mentioned the use of email when discussing some subjects with your husband…my wife and I do that as well for the same reason.

  2. I sometimes wait until I’m at work to address something with my husband via Google Chat because that way both of us can think through our comments before putting them out there. The down side is, like you pointed out, the emotion must be inserted by the reader, not the writer, which can cause confusion, miscommunication, and sometimes bigger issues than you originally started with!

    I agree with a lot of what you said, especially that people tend to be “bolder” when offering their opinions on the internet; they think there aren’t repercussions and they seem to forget that people still have feelings, even if they’re reading words on a screen instead of hearing them with their ears. The ability to be anonymous means folks hesitate less when accusing, blaming, insulting or otherwise offending. I’ve experienced this on one of my blogs; I posted a photo of our “mall” (you’d have to see it to understand) and mentioned a joke some friends and I had about a Chinese restaurant there. Someone under the protection of internet anonymity accused me of slander. In another instance, someone I know personally (but don’t know who) anonymously commented on another blog of mine, basically calling me proud and acting “holier than thou.” I get very angry when people leave their thoughts but don’t have the guts enough to identify themselves. It’s hard to take their accusations seriously when they themselves apparently have something to hide.

    Okay, I think I’m done with my soapbox now…want it back?

    1. Not at all Becky…and I have had similar things happen as well. Guess we bloggers develop thicker skins than others on these things over time.

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